Hello Beautiful People!
Sometimes it’s important to take a minute or two and reflect on some of the things you’ve learned. Time always feels like it’s going by extremely fast and before I know it, I’m going to be turning twenty. I actually didn’t intend on posting this until I actually turned 20, but because I finished the list, I decided to share it early. Plus, lets face it, 19 things I learned in 19 years doesn’t sound as cool.
Anyways, every year we grow a little more (maybe not in height…i can vouch for that one) and we learn new things. Today I wanted to share with you what I believe have been some of the most important lessons I’ve learned while growing up so far. I’m not saying because I’m almost out of my teens, that I’m suddenly wise enough to give all my life lessons to everyone. I’m saying that these are the things I’ve learned SO FAR that have changed the way I see the world and myself. Some of these are a little more personal (and I’m still working on a lot of them myself) and may not apply to everyone, but I still thought I would share.
WARNING: Some of these may seem very similar and it may feel repetitive, oh well!
20 THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN 20 YEARS
Sometimes you don’t have a choice, but when you do, make your own choices. No one should make decisions for you. If you don’t want to do something and you have a choice, simply don’t. That’s that.
Don’t worry about what other people are doing and achieving. Only worry about yourself in this case. Jealously won’t accomplish anything.
Don’t worry about not knowing what you’re going to do with the rest of your life. You’ll find something you’re truly passionate about by experiencing new things. Try new things, and don’t be lazy (blog post about this here)
If you don’t think someone is treating you well or they’re not a good friend, don’t feel the need to stick around. If someone is making you constantly unhappy, uncomfortable or bringing you down for no apparent reason, they clearly don’t need to be in your life.
Learning to “shake things off” and grow thicker skin is important, but sometimes you may just need to breakdown and show some emotion. But that doesn’t mean you’re weak (insert relevant song here).
Don’t dwell on the past (kind of ripping Buddha off with this one). What has happened has happened and all you can do from here is move on. Some things are harder to move on from than others, but trying to move on nonetheless is a personal choice that’s important to make.
Before you can love someone else, it’s important to try and love yourself. Because at the end of the day, that’s what will be most important to your happiness and self confidence (learned that from DVF).
Missing out on something isn’t the end of the world. There will always be other opportunities that come along as long as you make them happen or make an effort to participate.
True success and being lazy don’t mix well together. If you want to be truly successful at anything you do, even the little things, you need to put effort into it. And even if you feel like you’ve failed, you will still know in the back of your mind that you tried your hardest (and this is the point where you take #6 and move forward).
Just because something isn’t possible right now, that doesn’t mean it won’t be possible in the future. Patience is definitely key (make a realistic plan – make it happen, most things won’t happen overnight).
Even when you think someone cares about something extremely minuscule/is “judging” you (like the way your hair is put up one day, or the makeup you have on, or the clothing you have on), it’s likely they didn’t even notice, don’t care and they’re probably not even paying as much attention as you are.
Don’t try or want to be like anyone else because the truth is, it’s not going to happen. Be your own person, be your own role model. Only you can be you and the same goes for everyone else on earth.
Don’t pretend to like something to impress someone else. It’s not worth your time or their time. Having genuine interests to share with someone will make for the best/most open friendships/relationships.
People going in and out of your life is always bound to happen. But at the same time, if you have a gut feeling that someone is drifting away who shouldn’t be, make an effort to stay in their life. They may feel the same way too. If they don’t feel the same way, then you know it probably wasn’t meant to be.
For aspiring morning people: there is nothing better than going to bed early, getting a good nights sleep and then waking up early. You can get your day started early and feel more productive (you may even be surprised at how many hours of daylight there are). This may not apply to those who feel more productive at night.
Tequila does not give you hangovers if you know the perfect amount of shots to take.
There is a huge difference between “wanting” something and “needing” something.
Be smart while making your birthday or christmas wish lists if you need to make one while living on your own. May I suggest: toilet paper (some luxury kind), dish soap, paper towels, laundry detergent, cleaning supplies, and so on.
Decluttering your life may be difficult (especially when you’re the clutter queen like me), but it feels really good. Get rid/give away items you never use. Trust me- you won’t miss them (and likely only remembered you had them while you were searching through your things to get rid of stuff). My mother will be proud of me for this one.
Happiness is important. So do what makes you happy. But be realistic about the choices you make.